Nearly two years ago, two of my coworkers informed me that I was getting fat. Afterwards, I went home and bawled my eyes out. A few weeks later, I joined a gym. Granted, their comments were part of my motivation but it was also because I knew I was gaining weight. What hurt is that they were so blunt about the issue. It wasn't as if I was talking to a friend and asked "does this make me look fat?" I literally walked passed them and they proclaimed loudly the status of my weight gain. I've never been in the presence of such rude and heartless people in my life. Welcome to New Jersey, right?
Take it to the present and about two days ago one of my coworkers started the shift by saying to me "you look like [insert a man's name here]." I replied, "I look like a man to you?" Her reply, "Umm...well..." and then silence. WTF?! As far as I knew, I had no beef with this woman nor was I her best friend. We were just coworkers, that's all! I had never insulted her or even carried on a conversation with her other than idle chit chat. So what was with the comment? I was, and still am, upset about this because I just simply do not understand what it is about me that invites people to openly insult me without any regards towards how I may feel about such bluntness. People suck!
Each day I say to myself that there is no way people can get any worse. Then suddenly something happens and I find myself shocked at how idiotic, rude, and heartless they can be. Why on earth do I even bother following the Golden Rule. It isn't as if it works anyway; such a waste of my time. This is why I spend my days off playing with my cats and taking care of plants rather than going out and interacting with more people. At least my cats and plants don't make me feel like shit.
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Aww, I'm sorry :( I can't believe people can be so ignorant. The only reason I think they do it is because they have no self-esteem themselves. Or maybe they grew up in a culture where things like that are just said all the time, and people don't even understand what they're saying since they probably have never heard loving words to which they can contrast their normal, hurtful words.
Still it's horrible they say things like that to you for no reason.
Just try to keep telling yourself that you're an awesome person. And you're not fat, and you don't look like a man. They're probably just used to worshiping stick thin models, and they think everyone who doesn't look exactly like one (which is very few people) is not feminine or of an average size. Especially since female's are objectified, if you don't fit that exact object, then all of a sudden you're not a woman according to some people I guess. Stupid!
Thank goodness for plants and animals! But also for nice people too!